Waves of Life

2007, 12, 12.

92 Years old.

“My grandfather is an extraordinary man. He is not perfect, but when he is alive, he makes everybody be proud of him.

From “death on a funeral”

My father is a mirror of him. When they are young, they are like the solders from Northern China, silent, of principle, sometimes unemotional, etc. People, especially the young kids, including me, are scared when he shows up. If make no mistake, you are just air to him, but anything wrong happens, there is always an eye glaring at you. As time goes by, the fire in their heart shades away generally. Only those deep-inside love shows up. They prepare all the good stuff for you, most times, for the grandsons, since the sons are already too old to be attracted by those candies and some other snacks. Later on, he looks like a old general without any power. He steps to you, watches what you are doing, repeats asking those seems-to-be-dumb questions. What he wants is your attentions.

Generally, we worship him. My grandfather is history himself. He almost joined the red army, just a little bit late, but he did serve the guerrilla forces. His son could have been a martyr family member but he refused to accept this glory. He could have treated his sons and future daughter-in-law better during the Culture revolution when he was the leader of that small village but he didn’t. He is good at fishing, shooting and management but he never used it for his own family. Nobody knows why, even his sons. They had complained, just as we did to our fathers, and later on we both knew it is OK.

He treats his grandsons much better than his sons. This seems to be a habit to those gentlemen born in this big family. When the kids want to see a movie, he spent the whole afternoon waiting outside. When the kids want to go to another place, he accompanied with them and came back alone. When the kids want to taste some fishery, he never failed to satisfy them.

Here I am, with and without him.

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Day Night Day Night, 日日夜夜，嘎纳最佳电影奖，刚好上海的电影频道放了简介，就拿下了。

• Death at a funeral 中文译名超完美告别，喜剧，一看到funeral我就觉得是喜剧，为了验证我的正确。。。

生活很有戏剧性－－喜剧的意思也许是别人的戏剧对观众而言则是喜剧。

好比被熟人抢了一个车位，争论中却忘了最有利的说辞，车里还有一位腿脚不便的长辈呢；推着脾气暴躁的80公斤重老头爬了半里斜坡，到了门口的时候换了一下手，功劳就变成了别人的；出了一身臭汗，被半路挑担子的朋友抱怨；自己抱怨两句一切是因为被抢了车位，结果在葬礼上惹来众怒。

好比听父亲的教导，诚心做一个有责任心、能牺牲的男人，承担了葬礼全部的费用，来宾却总是逢迎着身为名作家却自私的哥哥；多年来照顾唠叨的母亲，没有笑脸，反而体贴的老婆总是遭到母亲的敌意；而哥哥一个俯身的敷衍性质的亲吻，就让母亲喜笑颜开；受人尊敬的父亲，原来有着为社会不容的性取向。

你无法去解释，只能将一切承受。即使，或者仅仅因为，你只是一个连手臂上皮肤变化都无法解释被医生长辈躲避，或是三年里写的一部小说连个让人觉得恶心的无耻家伙都敢嘲笑的凡夫俗子。

当然，既然是喜剧，终于，会有一个喜剧的结尾。

可是也不用太开心，生活不会总是喜剧。

好的喜剧，并不全是让人放松的笑话，也应该让人思考。

虽然我有这些想法，可是看着发生在别人身上的故事，我一样笑得很开心，是吗，不是吗？

12:08 East of Bucharest, 布加勒斯特，这个名字如此有意思，我无法相信电影很烂，所以买了。

The secret life of words 言语的秘密生活，这个翻译实在没劲，不过看到Tim Robbins，再看看简介，应该是我喜欢的类型。

Gandhi，My father，这个完全是因为名气买的，按下不表。

Le vent seLeve 法语电影，中文译名是风吹稻浪，这年头没看过欧洲片哪里敢说自己喜欢看电影，嘿嘿。封面不错，故事简介也吸引人，又获奖过。嗯，就拿吧

情人，梁家辉主演拿影帝的。与之相比，色戒应该晚了有足足二十年吧。

Prag 布拉格，丹麦的，我觉得不错，反正价钱便宜就拿了，其实这个才是关键。

以上8个，一共是59块RMB，便宜呀，咔咔。

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